THE PATHFINDERS REACH FOR THE LADIES,

During your 20s, men are trooping and everyone wants to marry you. They are all over you. Your WhatsApp doesn’t rest. Your messenger is filled up. If you breath on Facebook, you will get 400 likes and 350 comments.

You can’t walk on the street without ssshhh ssshhh. Your breasts are very comely at this time. Your lips are succulent and your legs are smooth. Even if you are ugly, it doesn’t show much at this level of your life because everything is still standing tall. The backside is still very nicely shaped and bouncing properly.

Now, the mistake most of the ladies make is this:

1. At this level, you easily dump guys in relationship. Any little thing, you break up. In your mind, there are many fishes in the ocean. Over 20 other guys are bothering you for relationship, so you can easily hook up with another guy. After six months, you break up again and start another one. You are like hot akara. You cannot bend down and build a solid relationship nor learn how to tolerate a man and work on your own self. At this age, feminism dey shack you well. You no send anybody. You no wan hear advice at all. For your mind, this kind post na rubbish.

2. At this level, some ladies want to show everything: the boobs are still standing, so she can snap to show it. The buttocks are nice, so she can display it anyhow. You sell the romantic skin like akara. Every guy in the neighborhood is coming to take his own share. Even married men are collecting their own. Everyone is collecting and walking away. For your mind, marriage no go hard.

3. At this point, you don’t lack anything. Men are giving you all you need. You’re not working but your airtime is never below 10k on the phone. Shoes and classic clothes are unaccountable in your wardrobe, yet you are not doing any job. Life is beautiful and that’s exactly how your life is depreciating with speed.

A time will finally come when your age has really increased very well. The boobs are needing pillar support and the buttocks are no longer comely anymore but rather ‘loosing’, the face has a lot of pimples and holes. Many things have gone wrong. The tummy is out by the day, your local government is beginning to have some kind of mature odour and the armpits are darker. The waist tires are forming with speed.

At this point, days turn to months and month turn to years. It will always look nearly, but something will just happen, the guy will disappear. You will start following another guy with hope for marriage, like play like play, that one go just chop you run away.

The fear and worry of menopause will even make you age faster. By this time, all the multiple guys you slept with both the ones from a cursed family and the ones from ancestral curses, when you were lifting your legs to the ceiling and twisting your body like snake in bed. All those things that make guys rush after you are gone like a movie. At this time, you become emergency Christian. All your posts are about Jesus and church things. Any comment you make, Jesus must enter. Even when football is being discussed you must find a way to add Jesus to it. For your mind, you dey deceive guys abi? You want them to see wife material in you. Suddenly you learn manners, all the multiple people you had relations with, the battle is now more spiritual than physical. All the curses married women were laying on you for sleeping with their husbands are now controlling your life. Not even Mary Kay can remove all that mess!

At 40, a guy is still young but a lady of 35 is more like a “Christian mother.”

What is my point? Make haste while the sun shines to avoid had I known. Don’t while away your time playing games with men. I am not saying a lady cannot marry at 35 neither am I saying one should rush into marriage neither am I mocking those who are above 30 and still single, I still am not saying only those who marry at 25 have the best marriages. I am only saying, don’t waste your time sleeping around when you should accept a man and settle down.

Imagine you are around 30-35 years, at this point, only men of older age like 40-45 will come to marry you because young guys of 30-35 won’t like to marry a lady of 30-35 but unfortunately, those guys of 40-45, most of them are married. They even married girls of 22-27. They will still look so young at 40 but a lady of 35 will look like their senior sister. Ladies age faster. That’s why a girl of 16 can be looking so mature, guys would be wooing her but a guy of 18 would still be looking like 13 years old boy. It also applies to old age.

This might not actually be applicable in all cases, not all single ladies at 30s were slay queens, but the message remains, “make hay while the sun shines.